Anxiety & Depression

Mags - October 17, 2017

When we think about anxiety, we imagine our bodies “freaking out” and “revving up.” Depression, on the other hand, causes us to feel “flat” and sapped of energy—sometimes unable to get out of bed. So, we assume these disorders are opposites. While these characterizations may be broadly true, many of us are both freaking out and stuck in bed! We are really the Anxiety and Depression Sisters (not as catchy, we know) so we felt it was time to clarify the link between these two brain illnesses.


After all, if you have experienced clinical depression, you have an 85% chance of developing Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), and a 35% chance of developing Panic Disorder. This association means that, if you have been or are depressed, buckle your seatbelt because anxiety may well be around the corner. For those who develop anxiety disorder first, there is a slightly lower correlation but the association is still strong. Fighting anxiety all the time is exhausting and the ensuing hopelessness certainly feels depressing. At any rate, we know that anxiety and depression are fraternal twins—closely related but not exactly the same.


For the sake of research, scientists often either “lump” (their term) or separate symptoms of anxiety and depression. However, it is clear that these disorders are located in the same areas of the brain, with many of the same hormonal and chemical reactions and nerve responses. In other words, whether a person has an anxiety disorder or major depression is often a matter of very subtle differences in symptoms, and many people have what is called co-occurring disorder (both at the same time). The lines, as they say, are quite blurry.


In fact, there has been a push to come up with a mixed Anxiety/Depression Disorder in the latest DSM, which is the book of psychiatric diagnosis that all clinicians use. For technical reasons, the idea of a new co-diagnosis was not adopted here in the US (although they do use it in Europe).


For sufferers, perhaps the most relevant information concerning the link between anxiety and depression is that the treatments for anxiety and depression are largely the same. Almost all types of therapy and/or medications are used for both disorders. (Notable exceptions are extremely stubborn depression and bipolar disorder.)


While many symptoms of these two brain illness are shared, we thought we’d pay particular attention to those more commonly associated with depression:


  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Fatigue
  • Restlessness
  • Crying, often without direct cause
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Loss of appetite
  • Loss of sexual drive
  • No motivation to do anything
  • Lack of joy in things that used to bring joy
  • Low self-esteem/lack of confidence
  • Withdrawal from the world
  • Self-blame/feelings of worthlessness
  • Hopelessness
  • Body aches and pains, particularly headaches
  • Irritability
  • Constant negative thoughts


Of course you may recognize some (all?) of these symptoms from your anxiety struggles—and that is precisely the point. Often it is hard to separate anxiety from depression. Both come with feelings of worry, being overwhelmed, and an inability to cope in addition to a host of physical symptoms, all of which leave the sufferer feeling out of control.


So, if you thought you didn’t belong in our community because your primary disorder is depression, you were mistaken. Depression Sisters fit right in!


If you are comfortable doing so, please share some of your thoughts concerning the link between anxiety and depression. It is very comforting to many of our members when they discover they are not alone…



11 thoughts on “Anxiety & Depression

  1. I’m 34 years old and was diagnosed with anxiety at 18 although I have had it all of my life. I have been on various antidepressants since my diagnosis some which have helped tremesously and some that have done nothing. This summer I suffered crippling depression which my psychiatrist says stems from anxiety that wasn’t treated properly. I agree with her that there is a strong link between the two. I am finally on a combination of medicines that work! My anxiety and depression are both managed and under control.

    1. Brandi,
      We are delighted that you found the right psychiatrist (a very difficult task) and the right combination of medicine (not an easy task either). It is so important for all of us to remember, if we are not feeling better, we need to get a 2nd or 3rd or 4th opinion in much the same way we would for any physical illness. Thanks for sharing! Mags and Abs

  2. I could relate to a lot I have panic attacks,anxiety, depression. It’s been about almost ten years. My fibromyalgia kicks in as well. I am glad I found you guys! I got those days I just want to be in bed. But can’t because I got my kids and rely on myself only. I don’t drive freeways due to anxiety. So I feel guilty I can’t drive my kids to fun far places. I pray a lot and I’m on medications. I got my good days more now of days. Controlled anxiety and better moods😊

  3. Hi,
    Anxiety, depression, and fibromyalgia all seem to be connected (perhaps the inflammation connection). You sound like an awesome mother in that you show up to take care of your kids despite the challenges you are facing, and you are working to manage the anxiety and depression. I think that is inspirational. In terms of driving phobias around freeways, it is really difficult (check out our driving phobias blogs and Q&A). You are not alone in being anxious about freeways. My thought is that it is okay for our kids to see that we are not perfect, that we struggle and that we work on ourselves continuously….things don’t always come easy for us (or them). We are human beings and works in progress. Lots of love, mags and abs

  4. I have both anxiety and depression. I think they go hand in hand…if your anxious, it makes you depressed and if your depressed, you’ll probably be anxious about it.

  5. I suffer with major depressive disorder, anxiety and panic disorder.

    I have no insurance and am trying to hold down a job, currently working 40 hours a week, even though I am considered part time.

    I can only afford a doctor’s appt a couple times a year.

    I am barely holding it together.
    I can’t do this anymore…

  6. I retired 9/13/19 from a very stressful job. The final straw was receiving an email from the assistant manager because I was not “acting right” and someone I trusted told him I said I worked in the “good old boys club.” I was wrong for saying it. I was already so low as I felt like my 43 yr marriage was ending. I retired the day after the email. I have lived in fear and worry since that day even though my husband says we will be fine. He retires in May. I am so low and so anxiety filled. I don’t know what to do.

    1. Rachel–
      So many of our 120 thousand Anxiety Sisters say the same thing. Start by knowing you are not alone…then, email us for some suggestions.
      Abs & Mags

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